Proverbs 26:4-5 initially appears to give contradictory advice: “DO NOT ANSWER a fool according to his folly, or you will also be like him. ANSWER a fool according to his folly, that he not be wise in his own eyes.” The keys to properly interpreting the apparently conflicting advice are the descriptions qualifying the imperative. The objective in the first case is engaging a fool without stooping to his level, using abusive language, character assassination, deflecting and blame-shifting. The goal should be rather narrowly correcting the fool over the issue in dispute, addressing raw facts without being abusive or judgmental of the fool. Of course the fool might still blow you off, but at least you’re not communicating like the fool, according to his folly. And methodically sticking to the issue without being disrespectful is potentially corrective. The fool can no longer easily be right in his own eyes. The real issue then in these verses is how we converse with a fool, who would provoke a response in us that is verbally abusive, and abuse returned discredits whatever wisdom we might provide.
